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"Marleying" Is The Dating Trend You Should Be Aware Of Over Christmas

By Sarah

December 22, 2017 at 2:25pm


Have you been 'Marleyed'? Not sure? Well, see if this sounds familiar...

You've broken up with your ex from your home town for AGES at this stage, and it's been great. They haven't tried to contact you all year and you're pretty pleased at how well you've both moved on. How adult the whole thing is...

When all of a sudden your ex gets in touch out of the blue at Christmas time 

Research by dating site eHarmony has found that 11% of people have been contacted by an ex around Christmas in this trend that has been termed "Marleying".

The move is cleverly called ‘Marleying’ after the character Jacob Marley in A Christmas Carol, who suddenly appears on Christmas Eve after years of being dead.

It's basically the complete opposite of ghosting 

“Just because you are at home visiting your old haunts, it doesn’t necessarily mean you should feel compelled to haunt a former partner," Rachael Lloyd from eHarmony told The Independent.  

“Though some people are happy to reconnect with an ex over Christmas, it’s important to ensure you are both on the same page to avoid confusion or hurt.

“Often relationships end for valid reasons such as a lack of compatibility. If this sounds familiar, rather than revisiting a relationship where the same issues could arise all over again, we would suggest spending time with family and friends and enjoying a well-earned break. Going backwards only decreases the odds of finding a new, long-lasting relationship."

Hands to yourselves at midnight mass people...

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